I know a private business owner who has a rich family background. He is also handsome and knowledgeable. There are no girls with masters, female managers, and female bosses (known as “three high women”, that is, high education, high level, high income). Playing his idea secretly, he just married a small financial clerk with only a technical secondary school degree, and was dubbed the “three low wives” (low education, low education, and low income). Once I had dinner with him, I asked him why he wanted to be low, he laughed, and calmly summed up the three advantages of marrying a “three low wives”:
One. The “three low wives” worship and admire their husbands spiritually, and men can be the pillars of the family at home without being frustrated. And marrying a strong woman would be unlucky. People give orders in the unit every day, and they must be arrogant when they come home, and that man will never have a bright future.
2. The “three low wives” have no desires or desires in their careers, and go home after work. They are the material of a good wife and a good mother, but strong women are different. They often socialize outside. Who cares about the family, men have to do it again Dad is a mother again, and he has become a “model husband” at home. When that happens, friends around him can’t help but sneer. Look, the bastard is not as good as his wife.
3. The “three low wives” have a sense of dependence on their husbands financially, which contributes to the harmony and stability of the family; strong women earn more than their husbands, and their independence and autonomy are too strong, so naturally their hearts will be higher than the sky. Whenever the mountains and rivers change color, the husband will be swept out!
Men’s preference for “three low wives”, in the eyes of self-respecting and self-improving women, is tantamount to an out-and-out machismo. However, judging from the pattern of marriage between strong men and weak women since ancient times, it seems to be commonplace. A man’s love for a woman must be established on the basis that the former is strong enough and sufficient advantage in front of the latter. This strength and advantage is not only reflected in age, height, physical ability, but also in power, money and psychology. If a man feels low self-esteem in front of his beloved woman, he is always embarrassed, his male desire to conquer will not be released, he will have a serious sense of insecurity, even physical and psychological double “impotence”, and never recover. Therefore, male spouse selection has always been a kind of “overlooking psychology” since ancient times: he is younger than me, shorter than me, education is lower than me, and income is lower than me…
Two professors from the University of Michigan and the University of California at Los Angeles have conducted research on more than 300 college students in choosing a spouse, 120 of whom are men. Researchers observe whether superiority will affect their willingness to choose a spouse. The sense of superiority here has nothing to do with personality, but mainly refers to status and power income. It turns out that most men tend to be assistants at work when choosing a spouse, but are less interested in their colleagues and superiors. Women do not particularly consider superiority. Therefore, in many foreign companies, it is common for male bosses to marry female subordinates, or for a young and beautiful female secretary to marry a successful male boss. On the contrary, it is rare for male subordinates to marry female bosses. As for those who marry Tang monks with bones and spirits, it seems that it is rare for men like Tang monks to be subdued by foxes in their lives. And I found that the more successful men are, the more likely they are for the same career. The adult “three-high women” keep a distance of three feet.
Why is that?
On the surface, men are very powerful, they are all gladiators, and they have a heroic complex. In fact, they are a wild animal with a superficial arrogance but inferiority. He is most afraid that the woman around him will be better than himself. The more capable a woman is, the better the conditions will be. The better, the more a man panics and the more at a loss, his sense of accomplishment and satisfaction will become a tree without roots, a source of water, and his hero complex will no longer be released. Because men love face the most and are most afraid of showing their incompetence in front of capable women.
And a strong woman, seen from the eyes of a man, is comparable to Mount Everest, tall and mysterious. Although men want to be gladiators, they have a desire to conquer, and they all have the desire to conquer famous mountains and rivers, but the high altitude and severe cold weather of Mount Everest make it difficult to climb, unless they are members of Mount Everest. But nowadays, all Chinese men cherish their lives like gold, their eyesight is short-sighted, and it is tiring to climb Mount Huangshan and Mount Tai. Who is willing to spend a lot of energy on a giant mountain that is hard to reach? This is probably also a Chinese-style strong woman. The reason why this man is frightened and can only fall into the embarrassing situation of lonely self-admiration, right?
Men, that’s a good thing, please remember that all big men are actually “paper tigers”!