A woman cried and asked, “The women the husband looks for are not as good as me. Why is he so cheap? I can’t even be satisfied when the husband is fair. Why should I play with other women?” These are some good women. Confused. Some women also asked: “I started a business with him, and now I am wholeheartedly keeping my family. Why does he betray me and often fooled with those fox spirits (the ones with better looks)? Does he still have a conscience?” Only by analyzing the physical and psychological aspects can we find the answer.
Men’s extramarital sex generally includes prostitutes, one-night stands, extramarital lovers, and mistresses, etc. It can be said that these are unethical or illegal acts and should be condemned or punished by law. But the condemnation and sanctions still haven’t solved the problem today. Instead, they are intensifying. What is the reason? We have surveyed STD patients and extramarital sex actors for more than ten years, and concluded that the psychological factors of their derailment are as follows:
One is curiosity. Curiosity is common to all men. In terms of sex, men are more exploratory. If you only explore between husband and wife, it will add color to the legal sex life. However, some men with weak self-control ability will attract extra-marital sex when they are attracted by the unknown mystery such as “wife is like this, what about other women?” If he finds that having sex with another woman is the same as having sex with his wife, or that it is not as good as his wife, and may cause some trouble, then he may stop there. If he finds that the taste of “wildflowers” is indeed different, and he has a certain economic ability or charm, then he may also be addicted to it.
Second is the risk psychology. The last two sentences in the so-called “wife is worse than concubine, concubine is worse than maid, and maid is worse than stealing” is a portrayal of risk-taking psychology. Usually men are more adventurous than women. If they are used in the lives of couples, they may be able to create some new tricks or mobilize the fun for their lives. But if it is used on other women, there will be problems. Some men encounter setbacks during sexual adventures-such as sexual dysfunction, infection or fear of sexually transmitted diseases, etc., may return to the family. Some men take pleasure in adventure, then it is dangerous. There are also some men who can obtain sexual pleasure or extraordinary sexual feelings only during sexual adventures, and he may make repeated mistakes.
The third is to conquer the psychology. There are both men and women who want to conquer. When dating, a man chasing a woman or a man putting a man under a pomegranate skirt is a psychological satisfaction of conquering. After marriage, some men will satisfy their desire to conquer in order to show their ability, or to find self-confidence, or because of their perseverance. The purpose of conquering a woman’s “sex” is divided into several aspects: (1) capture the woman’s heart and body. (2) Just want to possess the woman’s body. (3) In sex, make women want to live and die to show their sexual ability. (4) There is also a special phenomenon. Some men like to watch a woman’s sexual response—especially the orgasm reaction. They will observe by conquering different women, and even achieve their goals through prostitutes. In this respect, Xi Menqing in “Jin Ping Mei” is a typical example. There are six-room wives and concubines in his family, and there are more than a dozen women who have sex with Ximen Qing and prostitutes. He is to satisfy himself by conquering women continuously. The harder it is for a woman to get a hand, the better Stimulated his desire to conquer.
The fourth is compensation psychology. There are several incentives for men to appear compensatory psychology: (1) The wife cannot satisfy her husband due to sexual dysfunction, sexual psychological disorder, injury or other reasons, or is unwilling to satisfy her husband due to wrong sexual concepts, and even uses sexual punishment as a solution The contradiction between husband and wife. (2) The wife or body is of poor appearance, old age, decay, or disability, etc. (3) The wife is overbearing and fierce, which severely dampens her husband’s self-esteem, and it is easy for her husband to be lured by the warmth from outside, and then develops into sexual relations and even marriage changes. (4) The husband’s sexual desire is too strong, and his wife is difficult to satisfy.
Fifth is revenge. Sexual revenge caused by his wife Hongxing coming out of the wall, or not being a virgin, or having been used by women to play with emotions in order to seek psychological balance.
Six is a good psychology. On some occasions, when a friend gets up, he will cringe when he is too cramped, and the result is a face that hurts others; or, after betting and inspiring with others, he is so strong.
Seven is the coercion. Attending the pornographic place with the leader. When the leader gets on, he will inevitably lose the trust of the leader, so he has to contaminate him.
Eight is animal instinct. Most animals do not practice “monogamy”, and humans also have such animal properties in essence; when social restraints do not work, the original face of the animals will be revealed. For example, under other women’s active pursuit and lust, they can’t stand the test of giving and embracing.
Nine is the play psychology. Some men are influenced by the Western trend of kinky music, or the idea of timely music, or the old ideas of three wives and four concubines. . Some women’s easy work, craving for money, pursuit of pleasure, and lack of morality are also the reasons that cause men’s sexual derailment.
After understanding some internal factors of extramarital sex from the above analysis, taking corresponding measures against these factors will likely reduce or avoid the extramarital sex of men. Specifically, a man guides his curiosity, adventurous spirit, conquest, etc. to his career or work by himself or his wife, to reduce the man ’s extroverted sexual impulses; it can also be directed to the life of the couple, such as the couple It is necessary to improve personal self-cultivation, cultivate good temperament, and increase connotation through continuous learning; the wife usually pays attention to appearance and proper dressing to fully display the charm of women, and in the room, it is necessary to increase the sexiness and sexual attractiveness, and find out the mind and sex of men The law of demand, the flexible application of sexual skills, and gradually improve the art of sex, often changing the pattern of sex to meet the needs of men’s sex, and thus also meet the needs of women. In addition, while giving men proper space, they should also restrain the man ’s freedom to enter the entertainment venue in a timely manner, so as to avoid his “frequent walking by the river, how can there be no wet shoes”. If the wife has sexual dysfunction or sexual dysfunction and other issues that affect sexual life, they should be dealt with in time to improve the couple’s life. The contradiction between husband and wife should be resolved through discussion, exchange of ideas, and concessions. The wife cannot often use sexual life as a means to threaten and punish men. Even if he occasionally does not accept the sexual requirements of the man, he should make a reasonable explanation and show his love someday. , So as not to make men hungry. Finally, it is particularly pointed out that men should pay attention to the transformation of decayed thoughts, pay attention to morality, and pay attention to their loyalty; strengthen their immunity to “fragrant flowers and stinky grass”, actively avoid pornographic temptations, and avoid getting involved in pornographic places; Wife, work together to create a happy marriage life.